Bondage & Submission. Unless you are into “Scene”,...

Bondage & Submission. Unless you are into “Scene”, you are probably more ignorant than you realize about the subject. There are probably more levels of BDSM that you haven’t heard of, than those you have. Have you ever pinned someones arms to the bed (or had your arms pinned?). Had your hair pulled? Guess what? BDSM!

BDSM is the use of restraints, usually resulting in heightened sensory stimulation, that can include fantasy role play and/or sadomasochism. Many people think of whips, chains, and pain as an integral part of BDSM, but the reality is those who include infliction of pain are a very small percentage of those who take part in it. Most bondage goes no further than soft ropes, a blindfold, furry handcuffs, or using a necktie to bind hands or legs. The people who practice the ‘harder’ stuff tend to fall into three categories- seeking a higher level of excitement/stimulation/control, addictive personalities, or for psychological reasons.

Why bondage at all? Why make any flavor of ice cream other than vanilla? [vanilla- a scene term for a plain life] Because other flavors excite your senses! When you submit to the control of your partner- your senses become more acutely aware of what’s happening to you (especially if you are blindfolded as well). The lightest touch can flood the brain with stimuli as your partner explores your body. You can not control where they go, what they do- the eroticism can be intoxicating. Even the thought of what they might do can drive your senses crazy in anticipation.

The introduction of bondage to your sex life can be difficult for some- relinquishing control to another person can be daunting- even for couples who have been together for years. It does require both a dominant and a submissive. Once you decide to relinquish control- it’s easy to be submissive- you simply enjoy! Being dominant can be more difficult- it’s not just about being in charge- you must be able to maintain the trust that the submissive has given, and not only be dominant and pleasure(or pain) giving, but loving- something that is easier said than done. Some couples (or individuals with multiple partners) may ‘switch’- that is, take turns being the dominant or submissive.

There are many websites and blogs dedicated to all forms and levels of bondage. Explore some, and then try it for yourselves. If you can try it with a truly open mind- you’ll keep it as a regular part of your sex life- and thank me for it!

(Source: theguccislut, via xemxija)